5 Ways To Overcome The "Healing Blues"

The word "Healing", sounds so pretty and majestic, but it is far from it. Healing is down right uncomfortable. That "pretty" part only meets you on the other side, once you've overcome the obstacles at hand. Depending on what you are healing from...determines how messy healing will be as well. All healing is a process that takes you through spiritual realms that requires Gods hand of mercy and grace. Often times, Him carrying us. We cannot go at it alone, otherwise we just will not get through it.

Healing is difficult and makes each of us that chooses its path, face ourselves, sit with our broken inner child and more often than not...listen to them speak about their hurts and where they began. If you have ever sat with a crying whining child....though valid their feelings are; it can be grueling. This is the part where one begins to acquire the virtue: PATIENCE.

We are learning to be patient and take our time with those parts of ourselves that are the root cause of what got us to the point in our adult lives, of needing to heal. This growth is also external. What work we put in, inwardly, shows outwardly.

What happens next, is the part that I feel is not discussed enough. "The Healing Blues." Overall, we speak about the joys of what healing does, but the realities of its positive results, has many in between occurrences before attaining those results. One example out of many, are the losses that take place. What support we start off with may not always stick around and be there in the end. Peoples lives change and while you are still getting through....they have gotten over it and probably tired of hearing about it. Friendships may not last because your process of growth is probably changing you in ways they are not use to seeing you. When dealing with healing from Narcissistic abuse; you may see previous support switch sides. That is an absolute harsh reality. It happens more often than spoken of. You begin healing within healing. Do not mistake this for you being stuck. It is a necessary part of your process.

Another example; is when you take a huge step forward then find yourself taking several steps back. It is hard to change. Healing makes us change into what WE are not even use to. That can be scary. What happens is, at this point, many will forefeight the journey and end it there. The process is like an antibiotic. Even when you feel like you are okay, if you do not take the entire 7 days worth of medicine, you will become ill all over again...even worst than you were before. Stay the course even when healing feels unbearable. If you do, you will blossom into this magnificent new masterpiece of art that only God could have created and made ready.

When you are facing difficulties in your healing and you feel like stopping the process, here are 5 ways to overcome, "The Healing Blues."

1.) Have a prayer life : This is your time to not only get to know how remarkable all parts of you are....but also to get to know your creator, Jesus Christ. He desires your time and not only wants to be your Savior, but your closest friend and confidant. He wants you to trust in Him and to depend on Him to see you through your healing. He will be your 24 hour, 7 days a week anytime partner, guide and therapist. Best of all, He does not charge you to talk to Him. He does not have you do all of the talking. He talks back. At times, He even requires you to listen, and always....to be still. He will carry every weight, anxiety and burden for you. You will never tire him out. You are never too much for Him. When healing feels more like you are breaking all over again, God will be right there to encourage you and uplift your soul. In Him, through prayer, just being....you will find rest. He will keep you in perfect peace. Just keep your mind stayed on Him. (Isaiah 26:3)

2.) Keep a journal: Write down how you feel. Keep track of every emotion, mood change, high points, low points and triggers. Be as detailed as you possibly can. Somedays you may have to push through those writings. It may be hard to sit down and face some of those moments....but as you keep record of your healing journey, you will be able to go back to it later, when you have reached goals and milestones, to see how far you have grown and healed. You will realize how much of yourself was buried and hidden beneath pain and war.

3.) Read Devotionals: This coincides with keeping a journal. When ever you are feeling a certain way, whether it is sadness, frustration, loneliness, anger, anxiety, numbness even joy; look for scriptures that speak to those feelings and emotions and encourage yourself. Write those devotionals down and keep a list so that when you are having any of those moments on other days, you can refer back to the scriptures that you wrote down. I recommend that you also use post-it notes and jot down scriptures to stick on walls, mirrors, windows, the fridge or anywhere else that you frequent through out your day. Fill your spirit up with God's word.

4.) Rest: Make sure you are resting. Sleep. Get some good hours in. Rejuvenate your mind, body and soul. Whether you believe it or not....healing is often a fight. Often to we battle great and small situations on our way to being made whole. If you are not well rested, how can you be on the frontline? Healing is 5% mind, 5% body, and 90% soul and heart. If you take away rest from any one of those 5%'s your heart and soul will suffer and the enemy....the devil will attack you when you are off guard.

5.) Have a Stable Support System: When you have highs and lows, it is so important that you have praying and supportive friends and family in your corner, understanding and being aware of the process that healing requires. Some days you will experience such fatigue in your heart; you will need the continual fervent prayers of the righteous. Prayer works!

(Matthew 18:20)

For where two or three are gathered

together in my name, there am I

in the midst of them.

A support system requires individuals connected to God and are able to go to Him on your behalf.

God desires your healing and your wholeness. Take time for your heart. You deserve to be free!

(Jeremiah 17:14)

Heal me, O Lord, and I shall

be healed; save me, and I

shall be saved: for thou art

my praise.

Raven