Dissecting loneliness - Part 1

Without Psychology……..

By Raven Nicolé

(Photo credit: CDD20 from Pixabay)

I will just admit it now; I am going to talk about loneliness without the added book psychology, because I simply do not have time to do the research today………but I really wanted to take my time to have a heart to heart over this intense and shared human experience that we all relate to. If you find yourself reading this, and not seeing yourself in any part of it…….just give it time. Sooner or later, loneliness resonates with us all.

There are many factors that cause loneliness; isolation, loss, excommunication, etc. but the greatest cause for many of us….is being alone. I see so many memes and so many reels of people talking about how much they enjoy being alone, but very few that discuss how, after an extended time of being without the presence of other people, other voices and ideas; it becomes redundant, boring, too quiet, sad and lonely. Humans have tried to normalize prolonged time of being alone, even when God Himself declared that it was not good that the man should be alone; and from that creating Eve as partner to Adam.

This is not replacing the alone time we need for self-reflecting and growth. I am speaking about the loneliness in replacing the need for one another for human development, comfort and partnership…..with just, ourselves. One very important fact that people need to understand is that, we are not above God. He had friends. He had support. In His human form, He needed them. Don’t get me wrong…God is God, alone. However, in order to identify with the humans He created, He had to present Himself in the form of man. This means, what Man felt, He felt……except He was without sin. During one of the most difficult points of His ministry, while He was praying alone, He found His friends sleeping, rather than being awake and praying, at such a critical hour. Them being present was important to Jesus. The significance of having a moment or seasons of solitude, are just as vital as having a healthy circle of supportive individuals.

Once those lighting rings and cameras are turned off, the quotes of , “living one’s best life alone”, are not being broadcasted to paint a facade……how many of those people selling to the world how happy and drama free they are being alone, are actually happy, drama free and living in joy? How many are longing for the comfort of like-minded/ diverse people, the existence of another soul next to them…..platonic or romantic?

There is peace in being alone. In fact, a lot of productivity happens in the company of ourselves. Goals are met. Often, time is well spent. We get to know ourselves more. Howbeit, a time comes when getting to know other people….even those we already know……getting to know them better, is more valuable than sitting with ourselves. The presence of the souls God took time to make, has no price tag.

When you find yourself lonely……maybe not today, or tomorrow, but *when you do……know that you are NOT alone. Your experience is one that we have and will all share at some point and many points in life. Staying lonely, is not God’s plan or will for you. In fact, loneliness is such a precious time to draw closer to God, in order to know and understand that, in those times of loneliness…..when people cannot fill that void, God’s presence and His love, can and will.

Biblical references:

Genesis 2:18

Matthew 26:35-40