Emotions have life

By Raven Nicolé

We are living in times where we are encouraged to “dismiss“, even neglecting our own emotional cues. We read social media posts that tells us to be strong, and scroll down to the next post; “It’s okay to not be okay.“ Then, the one after that, makes us hold others accountable, but never self–reflecting and seeing our own red flags. No wonder why people are so anxious and confused. A prideful and egotistical society. One, where it is hypersensitive, yet, pausing to let some deep feelings roll through, will have know–it–all internet psychologists diagnosing you with clinical depression. When in reality…..that person, those people, those situations mean something to you.

I am not cold–hearted and dismissive, to act like life carries on, and these people were nothing anyways. When God grabs hold of your heart, emotions and how you handle them and the people that may be attached to them, changes. Those humans and emotional events that we encounter, will always be important, no matter the changing of life.

I am not built for this desensitized AI generation. I will not fall into the traps of calling hurt and sadness, “disorders”. Those are the bricks of life that we use, to build upon. I will not ignore the waves. I will let them roll through until they subside. I was made from love. I do not mean between my biological parents. I mean, from God’s perfect plan. Therefore, I am made, to love. Don’t get me wrong; I am sharp, and a thorn in the pupil of one’s eye, where hate is present. It is innate for me to defend….including myself. The best part of me, fights to hold on to the love God will honor. Love that has hope. Love that is patient and kind. Love that forgives……although that part is the hardest.

Take care of your mental health, but also your emotional health. We are all familiar with the same God given emotions. Give grace to those that need more time to let the waters settle and their hearts feel better. Telling people to, “Get over it“, when they have not even had the chance to process everything, even saying to people, “let go and let God”, with no context and no understanding of the extent of their pain, is not helpful. Not even every Christian can easily let go and let God……..at first.

Just care for others. Love people. When you have no words that can truly help, PRAY for people. Pray for yourself. In doing so, we will get to the point of, letting go and letting God. Give way to expressing your emotions and feelings, in healthy ways. Do not bottle them up. If you cannot sit with every emotion that you go through, and respect each one; understanding where it came from, then it will be impossible to know how to tame them. Your emotions will eventually rise up and control you.

There lies the problem. This is why we see so many in prison, so many angry, abusive relationships, pridefulness, fear, self harm, addictions, unstable societies, even death. People are uncomfortable and scared to face and live through their own emotions, let alone caring for the emotions of others. Especially for Men, there is a lack of consistency when it comes to encouraging Men to express their emotions. It is time to change the narrative;

If you are hurting….say so. If you are angry, tell some one. If you are scared and full of anxiety, talk about it. Use positive and productive outlets that God gave you, to direct those emotions to healthy places: your hobbies, your talents, your passions. All of that is what I mean, by dealing with, living with and facing your emotions. Understand this most important part……….

You are not alone. You matter. You are meant to be on this earth. You are wanted. I believe in you.