¿Papi, Dónde estás?😞💔 (Dad, where are you?)

Single women/Moms, *should have that “Women rule the world” mentality, when there is no Man in the home, to lead.

The need for a Dad and a Husband in the home; that male strength (mentally…first, then physically), has been astronomically watered down in our modern day society; placed on the lowest part of the totem pole. I do not know who made a branch of women the spokespeople for all of us women, but, we absolutely need men. These feminist ladies do not speak for me, and do not speak for the nuclear family.

I am going to be transparent here. It is a “crack of dawn” past, “mid-night hour”, job, to stay on top, reach a certain level of daily success , in order to keep the house running smoothly……just for that day, as a single Woman. Now, add goals, deadlines, dreams. One day, quickly melts into the other, and now Wednesday has already arrived, and you just stepped into Monday, on Sunday. Thank goodness for “Google calendar.” A single Mom has to be both, Mom and Dad, if the other parent is not present, physically or financially. She has to make life happen and keep it moving forward and securely, for her and her kids. Even if Dad is in the picture; if the kids are primarily with the Mother, she is still living the part of two parents. The importance of a Dad LIVING in the home with Mom and the kids, has been downplayed , to not being necessary.

A two parent home 🏠 will always be necessary under healthy means…….and I want to make that perfectly clear. Healthy. Means.

I like to lucidly express how utterly important it is to have Husbands/Dads in the home…….not just “Men” but men with intention and purpose. My belief and stance on that became stronger, after a failed marriage and hopeful yet unhealthy encounters with men. I needed to hold on to the truth that, great strong men, still do exist, and I still believed in Women needing them, including myself.

We do not just need men for procreation……although that is a part of it. We do not need men financially only…..although being a provider in the home is a mans job (unless he is sick, or injury has made it impossible for him to bring money in). We need Men, because they cover us. They cover their families, our home.

Translation: They protect the home and their family from the outside world, or allowing the outside negativity from wreaking havoc on the home.

Men who know their purpose for being in their position as Men……are safe men. They are safe protectors and can be trusted. Going back to my thought above, about Men being unable to provide due to sickness or a serious injury……there are other important things he can do, like: spending meaningful time with his family, being present, praying with and over his family, studying the Bible with them. Helping them grow spiritually. That is just as, important as bringing in a consistent paycheck. “A family that prays together”…..has a much greater chance of staying together.

When a great Dad is in the home, that mindset of a single Mom, of “having to do it all”, does not exist. We do not have to be knocking down walls and power housing our way to the top to feed our kids and prove to them that we can. We can rest, and be successful and talented Women, without the stress and fear of having to do it all on our own; be both Mom and Dad. We cannot literally be two parents. We are just “Mom.” We can simulate the responsibilities of a Dad, but we cannot be Dads. Only Men can be.

Raven🌹