What "Trauma Coaches" Won't Say...

By Raven

They never give an honest approach about, "time". They want to appeal to the people that need their services. How? We hear, "Healing is not linear," over and over to the point we adopt that same line. It may not be, but TIME, *is. Time is set, for when we are born, and for when we die. Our need for more of it, does not change the direction in which time flows. We have no control over its movement, only with what we do with it. I do not include the time it takes to heal, over the death of a loved one. That healing is more complex, has many different levels, and takes uncharted time.........because life *does move along, but the sting of death makes a home in all of us. For now.

So, while healing is not consistently linear, consider what time is lost while struggling to release your cares into the hands of God. If you even do. I can look at every moment that I spent on souls that were lost in the first place, on their own journeys' to hell...........giving them power to my feelings and emotions. As I live in my current reality, and see that actual YEARS passed, with me still hurt, not one "trauma coach" ever said; "You do not have a lot of time in this world, to stay stuck in that pain." I believe hearing those words would be a benefit to people, because it puts everything into perspective.

People over use the rhetoric that, "healing is not linear," to not move forward. Due to so many human beings saying it, while also saying......"it is okay to not be okay." Well, when will it ever be okay.....to just be, okay? Those words are used as scapegoats and excuses by many, to not move and stay put........holding on to dreams, fantasies, lies, and hopes that never really were. Insults to injuries also keep us in pain, because the confusion from it all, causes us to keep wondering, why.....and wandering around in circles searching for answers and closure. God is not the author of confusion. If He is not, then, who is? The devil himself.

There is danger in not healing and moving forward. As a Christian, it is very difficult to do God's will. Even impossible, when your life is ran by pain and brokenness. Yes, we are going to hurt, go through pain, and sometimes stay in it for a while, but when it comes to relationship pains, we have to see to it, that we get the help that we need, as with any other pain, in order to keep living and thriving. Being stuck in hurts and broken hearts until death, comes with the grief of regret and can also cause you to lose your soul........for a few reasons:

1. You had no faith.

2. You did not trust in God.

3. You were unable to forgive.

Where there is no trust in God, there is no belief in Him. To know Him, to one day dwell with Him in Heaven......that is required of us. If we believe in Him and trust in His healing we CANNOT stay stuck, and Jesus MAKES healing linear. The last part, number 3, is not an open invitation to invite toxic people back into your life. Nor is it a pass to return to anything that tried to destroy who you are, that lead you into anxiety and other related mental and physical health issues.

At some point, healing *must be linear. We must keep the wheels moving in a straight path every now and then, in order to not derail. Everything has a time frame and an ending, and healing does not take precedence over the time allotted to each of us, in this life.

(Ecclesiastes 3:1-8)

3 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;

4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.